Reclaiming Venus
Reclaiming Venus: The Forgotten Power of the Feminine Within
By Margi Connor, Creator of Feminine Astrology
For as long as we’ve told her story, Venus has been misunderstood.
She was never just the goddess of love.
She was never only about beauty, desire, or romance.
And she certainly was never meant to be seen through the eyes of men.
But over time—through myth, culture, and centuries of patriarchy—her power was diluted.
She became a symbol of performance instead of presence.
Of being chosen instead of choosing.
Of desire instead of sovereignty.
What if the Venus you’ve been taught to become… isn’t your true Venus at all?
The Mythic Origins of Venus: Born from Rebellion
Before Venus was Aphrodite… before Aphrodite was made palatable for poets and painters…
She was born from a violent power struggle between Sky and Time.
In the ancient Greek myth, Uranus—the god of the limitless sky—was overthrown by his son, Cronus, the god of time and control.
From the sea foam that formed around Uranus’s severed genitals, Aphrodite emerged: whole, radiant, and untouched.
She didn’t come from sweetness.
She came from rupture.
She rose as the healing balm after chaos—a force of beauty and balance born not to please… but to restore.
Even older still, in Sumeria, we find Inanna—Venus in her rawest, most complete form.
Goddess of love and war, sex and sovereignty, descent and resurrection.
Her myth includes the Underworld.
She strips herself of every power symbol at seven gates. She dies.
And she rises again, reborn in her fullness.
This is the true Venus story:
Not about attraction, but initiation.
Not about being adored, but becoming whole.
How the Patriarchy Distorted Venus
Over centuries, the feminine was split in two:
The Madonna (Moon): Pure, selfless, respectable—but stripped of sensual power
The Harlot (Venus): Desirable but dangerous, seductive but shameful
Astrology echoed this split.
Women were seen only through these two lenses—mother or mistress.
The fallen Venus archetype emerged from this distortion.
She was taught to chase love, perform for worth, manipulate for safety.
She became magnetic only through being desired.
Stillness was labeled laziness.
Sensuality became something to be sold—or punished.
And worst of all… women internalized this.
We still do.
We believe we must:
Prove our worth
Perform our desirability
Please until we disappear
But the truth is: this isn’t personal failure.
It’s generational survival conditioning.
You didn’t invent this pattern.
But you can be the one to break it.
Venus as the Map of Your Self-Worth
In astrology, Venus isn’t just about relationships or money.
In Feminine Astrology, Venus is your mirror of self-worth.
She reveals:
How you love yourself
What you believe you’re worthy of
How you relate to your body, your pleasure, and your power
Where you’ve been taught to chase instead of receive
Your Venus sign tells the story of your inner goddess.
Your Venus house shows where she seeks embodiment.
Her aspects reveal the journey—challenges, gifts, and initiations—of returning to your truth.
When Venus is empowered within you, she radiates.
Not because she’s being seen… but because she’s seeing herself.
Reclaiming Venus: From Performance to Power
Reclaiming Venus isn’t about manifesting a man.
It’s about remembering yourself.
It’s shifting from:
Chasing → Magnetizing
Performing → Resting
Pleasing → Choosing
Earning love → Being love
It’s reclaiming:
Pleasure without shame
Stillness without guilt
Devotion to self above all else
This is not indulgence. This is your birthright.
The true Venus is more like the Siren:
She opens only for those who meet her depth with presence.
She leads from within.
She is sovereign, sensual, sacred.
My Journey with Venus (and How I’m Still Learning)
I’ve worked with Venus in hundreds of charts.
I’ve held women in circles as they’ve grieved, awakened, and come home to themselves.
But I’ll be honest: I’m still doing this work too.
In my recent session with my dear mentor and guest, Iana Lahi, something cracked open.
I saw how deeply I was still chasing approval.
Still performing worth.
Still hoping to be chosen instead of choosing myself.
Iana mirrored something to me that I didn’t want to see—but needed to.
And in that mirror, I met a part of my Venus I had abandoned long ago.
If you’re curious to hear more, I invite you to listen to our podcast conversation.
It’s raw, rich, and full of insight on reclaiming the real Venus.
And if you're just beginning to explore this journey, Iana has also created a beautiful Venus Healing Meditation you can use as a daily touchstone for your own reclamation.
An Invitation to Your Own Venus
If you feel called to understand your Venus—not as a symbol of romance, but as the compass of your soul—I would be honored to hold that space with you.
In a Feminine Astrology reading, we explore:
Your Venus sign, house, and aspects
The survival patterns your chart reveals
The path from the fallen to the empowered feminine within you
We do this not to fix you…
But to remind you: you were never broken.
You are not too much.
You are not too soft.
You are not lazy for craving stillness.
You are not wrong for wanting to be met.
You are Venus.
And you’re allowed to rise—again and again.
